Back To The Ex – More Problems Or Advantages?

You thought about giving an ex-boyfriend another chance so as not to leave your comfort zone? Also, did you consider that this could prevent you from building much more enriching relationships?

Sometimes different views and opinions or other incidents arise in a relationship that lead to a breakup. The partner then becomes the ex.

Even so, it may be possible that one or both of the partners would like to try again and give the relationship another chance.

Is it good to build a new relationship with the ex?

It all depends on the circumstances: what reasons did the relationship break up? Why is there a need to try again?

For example, if you want to go back to your ex just because you feel lonely, it is not recommended.

Why do you want to try again with your ex?

A relationship often breaks up because  the partners lack maturity and a series of nonsensical differences arise that  cannot be dealt with by the loving partners.

The distance can create a whole new perspective. An attempt can therefore be worthwhile if both have learned from the mistakes and are ready to approach and cope with difficulties differently.

But the situation is not always that simple. When there has been lies and infidelity in the relationship, it is often difficult to rebuild trust.

Do you still love your ex and can you forgive him? If you really want to give him another chance, you must stop feeling resentment in your heart.

Otherwise, a new relationship with the ex can mean a second failure.

Sometimes the partners decide to try again because they have children and believe it may be worth it. In this case, it is important that both actually want it for themselves,  not just because of the children.

Many just want to give themselves another chance to know whether it might not work after all. You want to dispel any doubt.

If both feel the longing, nothing speaks against it. You already know your mistakes and weaknesses and in the meantime you may have had time to see all the positive aspects.

If you can overcome difficult situations, it can definitely strengthen a new relationship with one another.

However, this should by no means mean a step back,  but always a step forward!

Cons of a new relationship with an ex

1. Nothing is the same as it used to be

If there was infidelity in the first relationship, the trust has been violated and nothing will be the same as before.

Even if both try hard and long to find each other again, a deep wound remains.

Trying again in this case is an eternal struggle against expectations that can never be met. Nothing will be the same again,  so you should think twice about whether it is actually worth trying again.

2. You cannot develop personally

Usually, a new relationship with an ex means taking a step back. You have tried several times, but there was no way to go forward. Still, you want to insist on it again.

So you close the doors to new acquaintances. You are holding onto a relationship that is already in the past. Maybe because you are afraid of leaving your comfort zone or because you think you are lonely.

3. The pain can be worse

A relationship can wear out because there are conflicts and problems,  because one is unable to cope with them and is afraid of losing everything.

Forgiving your partner too often and trying to keep the relationship going when the time comes to leave can lead to resentment, anger, and great misfortune.

4. Be careful with addiction

Some only go back to the ex because they have poor self-esteem and a certain amount of addiction.

This means that  you feel incomplete without your partner  and therefore hold on to them as long as there is no other person to be in a relationship with.

A relationship cannot be built on dependency! This only leads to failure and pain.

You should think twice about whether you actually want to try your ex-partner again. The decision is not an easy one, as many of the problems that led to the breakup affect the relationship.

If you are absolutely sure and there is no more resentment, if both partners want it and long for each other, then it can be worth a try.

However, fear, loneliness, the belief that you can change your partner, or addiction are not the right conditions for trying again with your ex.

Sometimes, however, you need time and space  to realize that this is actually the person you want to spend your life with. Then a new relationship with the ex can actually be nice.